AN INFLUENCER has revealed the nasty comments she receives as a result of being a mum to two girls at the age of 20.
Nicole Smith, a stay-at-home mum, explained that haters accuse her of being a ‘child having a child’, whilst others claim that her kids will have a ‘bad life’.
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However, the mum, who is the mother to Jasmine and Rosie, was keen to silence the haters and share the truth about being a mother in her twenties.
Posting on social media, the content creator uploaded a video of her and her eldest child, with the caption ‘I’m a young mum, and I’m not ashamed of that.’
Nicole went on: “‘Children having children’ is a comment I receive a lot on here.
“If you’re new here, my name’s Nicole, I’m a 20-year-old stay-at-home mum.
“I fell pregnant with Jasmine at 17 and again at 19.
“So ‘children having children’, let’s talk about that for a minute.
“I chose to have both my children when I did – I’ve always wanted to be a mum.
“I always said I wanted to be a young mum.”
Whilst the age of consent in the UK is 16, according to the Office for National Statistics, the average age of mothers who give birth in England and Wales is 30.9 years – 13 years older than Nicole was when she first fell pregnant.
Nicole shared that haters will claim that her kids will have a ‘bad upbringing’, just because of her age, as she clapped back: “‘You’re setting your kids up for a bad life and a bad upbringing.’ First of all, my kids are so beyond loved and not only by me, but by everyone in our family.”
Nicole also confirmed: “My daughter is well fed, she has a warm bed to sleep in at night, a home with electricity, I could go on.
“But you’re right, I don’t live in a £500,000 home, or take my daughter abroad four to five times a year.
“She’s not dressed head to toe in designer [clothes] – but I can tell you one thing, kids don’t care about stuff.
I chose to have both my children when I did – I’ve always wanted to be a mum
Nicole Smith
“I can go to bed at night, knowing my daughter is the happiest little girl in the world.
“You don’t have to become a mum at the age that I did, but I love my life, genuinely. And nothing’s going to change that.”
TIKTOK WEIGHS IN
The TikTok clip, shared under the username @nicolesmxth, left many open-mouthed, as it has quickly gone viral and since amassed a jaw-dropping 1.9 million views.
Social media users rushed to the comments to share their support for Nicole, as many praised the young mother.
One person said: “This melts my heart cause I want to be a young mum.”
To this, Nicole replied: “I love being a mum.”
Another added: “People shouldn’t be judged for the age they have kids at, if they can provide for that kid and give that kid the love they need, it doesn’t matter too much.”
My daughter is well fed, she has a warm bed to sleep in at night, a home with electricity, I could go on
Nicole Smith
A third commented: “You’re smashing it Mama!”
Meanwhile, someone else penned: “You seem like such a good mother.”
At the same time, other users took to the comments to open up about their own pregnancy and family stories.
One mother explained: “Had my baby girl at 17, then my baby boy four years later at 21.”
A second chimed in: “I was 23 when I had my little one (now 26) and I still get that comment. Honestly, some people have nothing better to do with their time!”
Another user wrote: “My mum had me at 18 and my sister at 19 and she’s the best mum I could ask for.”
One pregnant user penned: “I’m 20 and pregnant with my rainbow baby girl. People have been so mean about it. She’s so loved and that’s what matters.”
Here’s why I love being a young mum
Tracy Kiss, who fell pregnant at 19, has revealed what she believes are the pros of being a young mother.
The personal trainer and blogger, from Buckinghamshire, believes women who give birth in their teens make BETTER mothers than those in their 30s.
She claims young mums snap back into shape quicker, have more energy and relate more easily to their children, meaning they’re better behaved and happier.
Tracy told Fabulous: “Women who become first-time mums in their teens make better parents than those in their 30s or 40s.
“I believe if I’d been 10 or so years older before becoming a mother then I wouldn’t have the relationship I have with my children now.
“For a start, being older I would have had less energy and therefore less patience.
“I wouldn’t be as enthusiastic to speak to people after months of sleepless nights as I was in my teens.
“My body snapped back to its pre-pregnancy size through fitness post-birth, which in turn gave me the confidence to date and find love again. I’ve never been happier than I am now at the age of 30 with two children.
“If I’d have been alone at 40 with a newborn baby I’d be more tired, less happy with my body, less energetic and far more stressed from the shock of living my life for myself instead of putting others first. Sometimes age and the innocence of ignorance is a good thing.
“As a teen mum I just got on with it, found my feet and became responsible and capable because at the time I didn’t know any different.”
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