A YOUNG woman has revealed that she loves being a teen mother.
Esmie Mariah explained that she had her daughter when she was 18-years-old, and while trolls will ‘shame’ her for being a young mum, she won’t listen.
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The first-time, teen mum explained that she loves being a young parent, because when she’s in her 30s, she’ll be on the dance floor with her daughter, whilst older parents will be stuck at home making bottles.
Posting on social media, Esmie shared a clip holding her baby, as she beamed: “I love being a teen mum.”
The brunette beauty then added: “I’ll be on the dance floor at 3am with my 18-year-old and you’ll all be making bottles.”
Esmie later explained: “My mum had me young. I’ve always wanted my own baby as soon as possible and I made the best decision ever.
“I chose to have my baby. I wanted her before she was even here, I knew what I wanted.”
The mother then claimed: “I’m not missing out or wishing to go out and I can’t wait to do it with her.”
The TikTok clip, which was posted under the username @esmiemariah, has clearly left many open-mouthed, as it has quickly racked up 113,200 views.
But social media users were left divided by the video – whilst some agreed with Esmie and expressed that they too had kids young, others weren’t quite on the same page.
One person said: “I’ll be the same, cool mum era forever even in our older age. Full of life and love.”
Another added: “Definitely agree, no way I’m having any kids past 30.”
A third commented: “I was the same, 18 when I had my eldest.
“I’m now pregnant again at 29.”
What’s wrong with making bottles at 30?
TikTok user
Meanwhile, someone else asked: “I’m having my first child at the age of 34. I did all my partying when I was young and carefree until I got bored of it and wanted to settle down.
“I prefer being an older mum as I’m more financially secure and mentally mature to raise a child.”
People shame me for being a teen mum [but] this isn’t to shame anyone
Esmie Mariah
Another chimed in: “I’d rather be older and have a child with the right person. I’ll be bored of the clubs by the time I’m 30 anyway.”
Whilst one woman asked: “What’s wrong with making bottles at 30? You think 30 is old? Oh god.”
Different parenting styles explained
There are four recognised styles of parenting explained below:
Authoritarian Parenting
What some might describe as ‘regimental’ or ‘strict parenting.
Parents with this style focus on strict rules, obedience, and discipline.
Authoritarian parents take over the decision-making power, rarely giving children any input in the matter.
When it comes to rules, you believe it’s “my way or the highway.”
Permissive Parenting
Often referred to as ‘soft parenting’ or ‘yes mums/dads’.
Permissive parents are lenient, only stepping in when there’s a serious problem.
They’re quite forgiving and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids.”
Oftentimes they act more like friends than authoritative figures.
Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents provide their children with rules and boundaries, but they also give them the freedom to make decisions.
With an authoritative parenting style, parents validate their children’s feelings while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge.
They use positive reinforcement techniques, like praise and reward systems, as opposed to harsh punishments.
Neglectful or Uninvolved Parenting
Essentially, neglectful parents ignore their children, who receive little guidance, nurturing, and parental attention.
They don’t set rules or expectations, and they tend to have minimal knowledge about what their children are doing.
Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy to meeting children’s basic needs.
Uninvolved parents may be neglectful but it’s not always intentional. A parent with mental health issues or substance abuse problems, for example, may not be able to care for a child’s physical or emotional needs consistently.
Not only this, but one TikTok user shared: “Maybe let’s not mum shame at any age. 18/30 who actually cares?”
To this, Esmie clapped back and penned: “I’m not shaming anyone.
“People shame me for being a teen mum [but] this isn’t to shame anyone.”
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